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Bound By Blood, Divided By Politics: Three Egyptian Sisters

Originally published on Wed October 9, 2013 7:44 pm

Nagwa, Dina and May are sisters. All three are married, all three have children. All three had always been close — until now.

Egypt's political crisis is changing those relationships. Nagwa and May sympathize with the Muslim Brotherhood. Dina, on the other hand, supports the military, arguing that the generals are just keeping extremists at bay.

It is a division that is echoed in almost every Egyptian household. And the polarization has grown since the popularly backed military coup on July 3 that ousted Islamist President Mohamed Morsi and his Muslim Brotherhood from power.

Nagwa: 'People Look At Me And Think "Extremist" '

First we meet Nagwa at her home in eastern Cairo. (All three women asked us not to use their last names, or take their photos, for security reasons.) She usually wears a face covering, or niqab, favored by ultra-conservative Muslims. But today she is inside, among women, so she's dressed in a T-shirt and jeans.

Nagwa, 39, is a devout Muslim. Although she didn't support ousted President Mohamed Morsi, she says she feels pain over what's happened in her country: an elected Islamist president forced from power with the backing of much of the population.

And she worries that she'll get caught up in the wave of popular anger toward the Islamists. Hundreds of people are being arrested, often just on suspicion of links to the Brotherhood.

"Of course now I am scared," she says. "I am not willing to change the way I voice my views, but of course I am scared. ... People look at me and think 'extremist.' "

Her husband drives her to work now. And she wonders if people know she visited the pro-Morsi sit-in camps twice before they were forcibly dispersed.

When Hosni Mubarak's secular, autocratic regime was toppled in 2011, Nagwa felt safe enough to wear a face veil. Her job at a partially state-owned company never allowed it before, but after the uprising she felt the space for freedom of religious expression was opening up.

"A woman wore the niqab and no one asked her to resign or punished her," she says. "So when she wore it, I put it on."

Now she's afraid again. There are rumors at her office that the company directors are now labeling each employee in one of three categories: extremist, moderate or non-religious.

Based on her attire, Nagwa is sure she's been classified as an extremist.

She tries not to walk alone anymore, worried that her niqab may invite reprisals. She says when she hears people in the street condemning Islamists, she walks the other way. Sometimes she hears people condemning her, based on her dress.

But the family, she says, doesn't all agree.

"We are somehow divided," she says.

Dina: 'I Believe In The Army'

Nagwa's sister Dina supports the military and loathes the Muslim Brotherhood. But the third sister, May, is a fierce supporter of the Islamists who joined street protests against the military after the overthrow of Morsi.

May, 29, refused to speak to us for personal reasons.

But we caught up with Dina in Beni Suef, a city on the Nile south of Cairo. She is also a devout Muslim. The 36-year-old wears a flowing abaya and a scarf over her hair but she doesn't cover her face.

Dina's husband was a member of parliament during the Mubarak era and her brothers-in-law are police officers. That, her sisters say, explains Dina's opposition to the Muslim Brotherhood — though she insists she has her own take on the Islamists. They were seeking total control of the state, Dina says, and they were responsible for the wave of violence that followed the military takeover.

And, she adds, the forced dispersal of the sit-in camps on Aug. 14, when hundreds died, was sad. But the Muslim Brotherhood was warned, she says.

"It was like a state within a state," Dina says. "Were they really unarmed? No, they were armed. Then what? It was not a peaceful protest. They were taking away other people's property. They were using electricity, and lighting up the place, and they were about to start having running water. We were all suffering."

She has just returned from picking up her three sons from school.

Dina coaxes her 5-year-old son Marwan to sing a pro-military song that he's memorized. It's called "Bless Your Hands, Bless My Country's Army."

"I believe in the army," Dina says. "Yes, some people were arrested unfairly but the army is fighting terrorism."

No More Talk Of Politics

Then she talks about her sisters. She and Nagwa have tried to avoid fights. But between Dina and May, there is no common ground.

Dina says May curses anyone who backs the military. May says Dina is supporting people who could have murdered her and her husband simply because they participated in protests against the generals.

"This is what made me cry," Dina says. "I told her I would not speak to her as long as she's says things like that. I was not happy to hear such things from religious people."

To save their relationship as sisters, they stopped talking about politics.

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Transcript

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And I'm Steve Inskeep.

Let's meet three sisters trying to stay together amid the turmoil of Egypt. They're living in a country where anti-government violence last weekend left dozens dead. This adds to the hundreds killed since the military ousted President Mohamed Morsi in July.

Egypt is more polarized than at any time in recent memory, and so are the family members who spoke with NPR's Leila Fadel.

LEILA FADEL, BYLINE: Nagwa, Dina and May are sisters. All three are married, all three have children. All three had always been close, until now. Egypt's political crisis is changing those relationships. Nagwa and May sympathize with the Muslim Brotherhood. Dina, on the other hand, supports the military, arguing that the generals are just trying to keep extremists at bay.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: First we meet Nagwa at her home in Eastern Cairo. She usually wears a face covering favored by ultra-conservative Muslims. But today she's inside, among women, so she's dressed in a T-shirt and jeans.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Nagwa is a devout Muslim. And although she didn't support ousted President Mohamed Morsi, she says she feels pain over what's happened in her country: an elected Islamist president forced from power with the backing of much of the population. And she worries that she'll get caught up in the wave of popular anger towards the Islamists. Hundreds of people are being arrested, often just on suspicion of links to the Brotherhood.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: People look at me and think extremist, Nagwa says, with a wry laugh.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: When Hosni Mubarak's secular, autocratic regime was toppled in 2011, Nagwa felt safe enough to wear a face veil. Her job at a partially state-owned company never allowed it before. But after the uprising, she felt the space for freedom of religious expression is opening up.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Now she's afraid again. There are rumors at her office that the company directors are now labeling each employee in one of three categories: extremist, moderate or non-religious.

Based on her attire, Nagwa is sure she's been classified as an extremist.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: She tries not to walk alone anymore, worried that her face-covering, or niqab, may invite reprisals. She says when she hears people in the street condemning Islamists, she walks the other way.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Nagwa's sister, Dina, supports the military and loathes the Muslim Brotherhood. But the third sister, May, is a fierce supporter of the Islamists, who joined street protests against the military after the overthrow of Morsi.

NAGWA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: We've become a divided family, says Nagwa.

May refused to speak to us for personal reasons. But we caught up with Dina here in Beni Suef, a city on the Nile south of Cairo. She is also a devout Muslim. She wears a flowing abaya and a scarf over her hair but she doesn't cover her face.

DINA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Dina's husband was a member of parliament during the Mubarak era and her brothers-in-law are police officers. Her sisters say that explains her opposition to the Muslim Brotherhood. But Dina insists she has her own take on the Islamists. They were seeking total control of the state, she says, and they were responsible for the wave of violence that followed the military takeover.

When her children come home from school, Dina coaxes her five-year-old son to sing a pro-military song that he's memorized.

UNIDENTIFIED CHILD: (Singing in foreign language)

DINA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: I believe in the army, says Dina. Yes, some people were arrested unfairly, but the army is fighting terrorism.

DINA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Then she talks about her sisters. She and Nagwa have tried to avoid fights. But between Dina and May there is no common ground. Their last conversation ended in tears.

DINA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: Dina says May curses anyone who backs the military. She says Dina is supporting people who could have murdered her and her husband, simply because they participated in protests against the generals. That accusation, says Dina, is what made her cry.

DINA: (Foreign language spoken)

FADEL: That's why we don't talk about politics anymore, to save our relationship as sisters.

Leila Fadel, NPR News. Transcript provided by NPR, Copyright NPR.

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